The Key to Having a David Heart
Confession: I’m a recovering perfectionist.
I used to believe that I had to be the perfect wife, the perfect mom, the perfect person in order for God to be pleased with me.
But that was a lie.
As moms, we want to be examples for our kids, we want to teach them how to live for God. But we all fall down. It’s what we do when we’re down that makes a difference.
No one knew that better than two kings. Saul and David.
In 1 Samuel 15, we see the story of Saul. He was chosen as the first king of Israel. Samuel anointed him and gave him instructions to attack the Amalekites and totally destroy all that belonged to them.
So Saul went to battle. Verse 8 says,
“He [Saul] took Agag the king of the Amalekites alive, and all his people he totally destroyed with the sword. BUT Saul and the army spared Agag and he best sheep and cattle…these they were unwilling to destroy completely.”
Let me break it down for you. Saul was the king of Israel and he had an assignment. God wanted him to completely wipe out another clan of people who were wicked in God’s sight. They were not to keep anything. Not a single thing. But Saul messed up. He kept animals and the king.
When Samuel came to see Saul, he heard the animals, he saw the king alive. And when he confronted Saul, all Saul could give was excuses.
He blamed the soldiers for sparing the animals. He said they saved the animals to use as sacrifices. He tried to rationalize and said, “but we totally destroyed the rest!”
Samuel called him out right then and there. He said, “Enough!…Why did you do evil in the eyes of the Lord?”
Saul’s response was, “But I did obey the Lord.”
And Saul was rejected as king right on the spot.
Saul clearly disobeyed the Lord, but I don’t think it was his disobedience that caused God to reject him as king.
Why can I say that?
I can say that because of another king’s story. This one is found in 2 Samuel 11. And it’s about King David.
It was time for kings to go off to war, but David decided not to go. He went for a walk one day and saw a woman he wanted. He found out her name was Bathsheba and, unfortunately for King David, she was already married. That didn’t stop him though, he still slept with her.
When she became pregnant, David tried to deceive her husband (a soldier in his own army), and when that didn’t work, he sent a message to his general to have her husband killed.
From our perspective, it seems like David’s sin was way worse than Saul’s sin. Saul only kept a few animals alive. David’s sin snowballed until he KILLED a man.
So why was David called a “man after God’s own heart” and why was the throne stripped from Saul?
I believe it had less to do with what each man’s sin was and more to do with each man’s response to their sin.
Saul had an unrepentant heart. He was too proud and too unwilling to come to the Lord with godly sorrow. He felt bad later, but even then, he only wanted his sin forgiven so he could keep his throne.
While Saul only had excuse after excuse, David admitted that God was right in His judgement. Saul showed no remorse, and was only concerned about losing his title. David showed godly sorry and wanted an inner heart change.
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David knew that. In Psalm 51:17, King David tells the Lord, “A broken and contrite heart, you will not despise.”
Have you been guilty of trying to be the perfect mom?
Do you worry that God won’t love you if you mess up?
Be encouraged today that God knows we’ll mess up. He knows we’re not perfect. He only asks that when we mess up that we come to Him with a repentant heart. And we can be assured that when we do, He’ll help us get up and move forward.
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About the Author:
Ashley lives in beautiful Colorado with her husband and two sweet boys. When she’s not writing, you can find her curled up with a good book, leading worship at her local church, jumping on the trampoline with her sons, or encouraging women to reach new heights in Christ. Ashley has been in ministry for two decades, and blogs regularly at AshleyVarner.com where she has several online programs to help you and your ministry grow in Christ.
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